All Social Life is Appearance

It is made clear to me after today's lecture how I have been participating in the proliferation of my social life appearance on Facebook. I hardly ever post any honest or painful emotions as my Status Update. In fact, I see that as a weakness or faux pas. All my updates must be upbeat. I don't want my remarks to stand out as being whiny in the News feed, where they are perpetually in a forced context of the thoughts of the hundreds of mutual friends I share. Facebook isn't real friendship, and so I protect myself from that judgment by keeping things nice and on the surface. If I am having real problems and need to confide in someone, I will do it face to face with that person. Facebook is a tool that I use to build popularity and support for me and my endeavors and to network with those who can advance my career. If I want friendship, I have email and a phone and a car and those are the things that take me to a third party destination that is not my home office, where I engage in socializing that is still an appearance of sorts, but not nearly to the degree in which social networking will forever be mired.